Living in Denial

Since my husband's death almost a month ago. I did a lot of things that I thought would heal my heart fast. I moved to my home country in 2 weeks time and started putting the kids back to school. I went to church to ease my burden, but I didn't feel like it was the right time to talk to Him. You would see me laugh, but as soon as I stopped laughing, I would feel really sad right away.
For 6 years that my husband and I has been together, we never had dull moments. We liked being together and doing things together all the time. Our friends can prove how we love each other. And now that he's gone, I am still in denial. Tears want to run down my eyes but I try not to cry anymore. And it hurts!!! It hurts not to cry. I'd still tell myself that this is a dream....a very bad dream!

Sinong martir?

Why do some people stay in a relationship even if they know very well that it's a "One Way" relationship?

Some people told me that it's for the sake of the children. Is it still for the sake of the children even if the husband is hurting the wife physically? And children witness the fight every now and then? Do you think it is still healthy for the kids to hear their parents yelling at each other?

My advice to women like this is always: "Love yourself more than him."
A woman should get out of this kind of relationship esp. if the husband is already physically hurting the wife. "Once na sinaktan ka ng lalaki, masusundan pa 'yan, kase alam niyang kaya niyang gawin ito sayo."
You've got to get out of this kind of relationship as soon as possible. And if you're worried about your kids, then take them with you and start working (if you're not working) to support them. And if you're already working, move on with your life together with your kids and make sure that they get all the support and attention that they need. Prove to your husband, ex-husband or partner that you can stand up on your on feet and you don't need his help.

More advices to come.....